Grandparents & Hygge!
The term "hygge" (pronounced '“hue-gah”) - a Danish word associated with warmth, safety, and satisfaction, is often described as a hug without physical touch. In this post, I'd like to explore the concept of hygge for children with special needs, particularly those with autism. Due to their sensory challenges, children with autism may find physical touch uncomfortable. It becomes crucial for them to experience an emotional embrace, even when physical touch is not feasible.
Some like the physical touch, others not so much!
Grandparents, in particular, are often synonymous with hygge in the minds of children. The relationships they build with their neurotypical grandchildren seem to flourish effortlessly. A friend once shared the heartwarming rituals she and her 3-year-old granddaughter enjoyed—whether it was driving by the school where her “GiGi” teaches, admiring decorative pumpkins, or cooking spaghetti together. Such dependable routines create a sense of security for children. However, for children with autism, expressing what brings them joy may be challenging, leaving both generations feeling unfulfilled despite their longing for connection.
Interestingly, many children who struggle with spending time with others find solace and connection when engaged in structured creative activities. I observed my nieces and nephews effortlessly bonding with their grandmother, leaving me empathetic towards my oldest son, who couldn't reciprocate her attempts to connect.
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During a stay at the grandparents' house, I suggested that my son join his grandmother in her workroom to watch her craft picture frames, her business. What unfolded that evening revealed a side of my son she hadn't known—his laser focus on a task and admiration for her skills. A bond was forged as she helped him frame his own print. That seemingly disconnected boy evolved into a talented artist, and their mutual respect endured.
Many grandparents possess valuable skills they'd love to share with their grandchildren, irrespective of disabilities. However, holding a child's attention can be challenging in today's distracting world. Creating a project that captures interest requires effort, planning, and organization to ensure completion before patience runs out.
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Nevertheless, the experience of crafting a finished product together can form a lasting, happy memory, nurturing a child's heart. Grandparents hold a unique advantage as children form strong associative memories, especially true for those with disabilities like autism. Even if the project needs significant adaptation, creative materials provide robust sensory input—the softness of yarn, the smell of glue, the sound of an ice cream freezer whirling in slush. The essence of "hygge" revolves around sharing. Wouldn't all grandparents be delighted to contribute to a child's personal definition of this heartwarming term?